Crisis strikes, often without warning. It leaves us reeling from the impact, wondering what happened and how we’ll ever move forward. When it seems like the sky is actually falling, it’s hard to think clearly. That’s one more reason why self-care is vital on the good days. If you aren’t in crisis mode right now, […]
Since I started offering self-care sessions, I have been constantly blown away by the amount of trust people place in me. I’m meeting people for the first time, often via phone or Skype, and within the first 15 minutes, they begin to bare their souls, telling me about their one deep wound -their great sadness, the thing […]
Are you way too hard on yourself? If you’re anything like me, you don’t need critics – you’re hard enough on yourself! On bad days, you probably say really shitty things to yourself that you’d never-in-a-million-years say to anybody you actually care about. I hear you. And I get it. But friends, I’m done. I’m […]
Are you ready to get your life back? Over the past ten years, whether I’ve been serving as a worship pastor, best-selling author, blogger, or host of CXMH, my goal has remained constant: to shatter the lies of shame with love and messy grace. As a self-care coach, I believe life is all about taking my story and using it to […]
How’s your self-care? Each time I have an initial consult with a self-care client, one of the questions I ask is, “What are you doing for your self-care right now?” Most of the time, when people come to me it’s because they either have no clue where to begin, or they think they’ve tried it […]
When I was twelve, I fell off my bike and broke my arm. And do you know the craziest thing? People who have met me later in life have no idea that it happened. Not my boss, not my children, not my co-workers. I don’t think even my wife knew about it until I wrote […]
A culture that diminishes sexual violence is indelibly linked to my experience. I still have days when I find myself thinking, at least it was only once. While I am thankful I was only raped one time, the truth is it’s never only once. I’ve been haunted by the memories of that moment my entire life. The effects of abuse ripple out to impact relationships, decisions, habits, and my sense of self every single day.